Homebirth in Holland
November 2017 Having Wil as our doula was an outstanding experience. It was my first child, and Wil was so helpful during the labor process. As a husband, you feel a bit helpless when you’re watching your wife struggle through labor. Wil showed me small things I could do to make my wife more comfortable throughout the process which made me a way better partner. It was so helpful to have Wil with us during labor. We really feel she made such a great impact on our labor experience and we are grateful for her!
Labour in the Netherlands with a doula
October 2017 "I can only recommend Wil as a doula. She was super helpful and caring before, during and after my baby was born. Thanks to her my husband and me felt much more confident and in control of the situation during labor. Since we are expats and we dom't have family here, Wil was the best support we could have. She is an amazing and lovely person who will always be in our hearts."
Not like my first delivery
March 2015 “The delivery of my first child was very traumatic. When I was expecting again, I was not looking forward to giving birth at all. Having to face that pain again was not a pleasant thing to look forward to. Also the feeling of being “totally on my own” during the birth of my son was still fresh in my mind. My midwife advised me to hire a doula for constant support during labour. I got acquainted with Wil, she wanted to support me during the delivery to come. She asked the right questions, she showed me what the issues were during my first birth experience. Wil helped me to get clear for myself how this time I could do it differently. She helped me to cope with my fear and to let people know what I wanted during the proces of giving birth. Not like the first time trying to please everybody except myself. Wil has a warm personality and you can rely on her. The delivery went very well, all natural, without any intervention. A difference from day and night with the first time. Wil was a great help and support, she got me through the tough moments and I delivered my beautiful daughter on all fours. “I did it myself”, were my first words and I am so proud of that fact! Every pregnant woman will be so happy to have Wil as her doula!”
Expats say thank you
August 2015 We are a couple of expats from a post-Soviet country with quite different customs and regulations of child birth. We knew we needed a doula to guide us and help through the experience of giving birth to our baby daughter here in the Netherlands. Wil's infectious positivity, patience, and solid advice based on her many years of experience was a tremendous help before, throughout, and also after giving birth. We were very pleased to have Wil as our doula and recommend her wholeheartedly! Baby Ieva, mommy Jurgita, and daddy Jorigis
First child in the UK
Why I hired a doula "I live in the UK and hired a doula here because of several reasons. Being from the Netherlands, all my family obviously lives far away, and even though my partner is British, his family lives far away too. On top of that, my partner would have to wait for someone to take over his work and then has to drive 45 minutes to get home from work if I would go into labour when he is at work. Because of this, we decided it would be good to have someone who could support us both when labour starts. For me personally, there were other reasons too: I don’t really know how the system works here with regards to maternity services, so it is reassuring to have someone who can help me navigate this system and explain how things work over here. Lastly, pregnancy and birth seem to be quite medicalised here, which doesn’t agree with my views at all. A doula can advocate my wishes during labour if I can’t do it myself, and hopefully prevent unnecessary interventions. We found a great doula, who has been a great help so far. I haven’t had my baby yet, but it is great to have an independent source to turn to with questions or when I’m feeling unsure about something. She has recommended lots of good books and websites to find out more about pregnancy and birth, so I feel more prepared and sure of myself when I go to the midwife. This is especially true because I sometimes feel my midwife doesn’t give me all the information, or refuses to give me information about something until later on in the pregnancy. Because of my doula, I have been able to read up about things like certain interventions and form my own opinion about what I want and don’t want, backed up with facts. All in all, it is very nice to be able to turn to someone who you can ask all your questions, without feeling you might get judged for it or for your choices"
August 18. 2015 "It was great to have a doula for my labour and birth. I had a water birth at home, and my doula was a great support during the early stages of labour, when the midwives don’t stay with you yet. My contractions started on Sunday morning, but I didn’t give birth until Tuesday morning. My doula came to us on Sunday morning and stayed until Tuesday afternoon to help clear up everything. She helped out with advice, massage, sorting out the pool (which takes ages to prepare, so make sure you start on time!) chatting, and generally just being there and being a reassuring presence. Both me and my partner found it was very helpful to have her there, because it made us feel less anxious about everything, especially in the early stages when the midwives aren’t attending yet. I was a bit concerned the midwives might have a problem with her being there, but as it turned out they got on really well and worked together for me. I say midwives, because in England a home birth is attended by two midwives. I’m fairly sure that the presence of my doula helped to prevent interventions or maybe even a trip to hospital in labour, especially in the pushing stage. My baby probably had a hand on her head, which made it a bit more difficult to push her out, and at that point, my doula and the midwives worked together to come up with different positions that helped the progress. As a last point, I can definitely recommend using a pool, because the water and the warmth help enormously to relax. It is of course very important to keep the water at a good temperature, because it’s the warmth that does a lot of the work!"
Father asks doulasupport
Winter 1987 "There was a time I was working with pregnant women almost every evening. This one event I remember clearly. During one of the evenings where the partners came along to hear how they can support their wife or girlfriend during labor this father to be came up to me during the break. “Do you also support fathers during labor?” “Of course, I said but why this question?” “My girlfriend wants to give birth at home and I’m terrified of the thought being alone with her al that time!” We talked about his request of me being present when his girlfriend would go into labor. She didn’t mind at all. Although she was not anxious at all about giving birth, but if her friend could relax more when I would be there, she was fine with it. Three weeks later contractions started and on a cold evening at 17:30 I arrived at their cosy home. Dimm light, woman in bed taking a nap. All was calm and peaceful. The father to be was hungry an so was I. He drove to a Chinese restaurant and we ate a Chinese take away dinner. It didn’t bother his girlfriend, what I found extraordinary special. The smell of food during labor can make women go frantic! This was not the case and I was happy for her and for us, we could face the long hours to come on a full stomach. Contractions came closer together and were more intense. She was doing great. Being fully into her oxytocin bubble. The only thing she wanted was pressure on her back during contractions and her friend was helping her calmly and with confidence. His fear was totally gone. They were doing great together! When the midwife came to check upon the situation, she was surprised what she found. Two calm supporters and the woman, 9 cm dilated and doing great. She stayed and we waited for the last centimetre to dilate. She asked me who I was, if I had experience with supporting woman during childbirth. When I explained where I came from and why I was there, she was content with the whole situation and complimented me on my role as supporter for this couple. For me it didn’t feel as a very special thing, but now, 25 years later I realize that my present might have helped to stage the whole labor. What might have happened if the father to be had lost his nerves? The oxytocin would probably have not flown that easily….. A beautiful, healthy boy was born after ¾ hour pushing and again the father helped and actually enjoyed his active role during this stage. The placenta came after 5 minutes, very easily. Father relieved and very happy after this great experience and so happy with his little boy and….ever so proud and in love with his girlfriend. So glad to have been able to be of help for especially the father. He thanked me for my presents….because much more than that was not necessary during this beautiful, serene birth.. Just being there was enough. That night I drove home in my own oxytocin bubble at 04:00 in the morning. What a beautiful experience, what a privilege to be invited to be present. Thank you for the trust! More deliveries would follow……but at that moment I was not aware of that!" These people had a doula at their birth.....but at that time the word doula was not yet common!